In order to truly hone our self-motivator muscle, we must first identify all of our habits that make it weak.
As a person whose job it is to direct and guide others, I feel a responsibility to get up on my soap box and bring attention to a major, paralyzing drought that is impacting our society’s ability to thrive.
And to be clear, the only finger pointing that will be done here is at the person, whom when you look in the mirror, stares back at you from the other side.
Because somewhere in the midst of the proliferation of self-help books, cleanses and gurus, we have completely lost our capacity for standing on our own two feet. We build images based around the products we use or the experts we follow, forgetting all along that this is our life and that we are, by definition, the ones who are supposed to lead.
This behavior is problematic on so many levels, because not only does it prevent us from being self-reliant, but it also prompts us to depend on someone or something else. Our worth, our potential, even our success becomes directly tied to something external. And then, God forbid, if there’s a less-than-desirable outcome, what do we do?
Oh, we blame.
What happened to taking responsibility for our actions? To understanding that choices have consequences, and seeing one through to the other are the moments of which life should be made?
No, this is a truth we’d prefer not to swallow, opting instead to become addicted to instant gratification as a magic pill. Yet the irony is that when it comes to legit, tangible personal transformation, the lure of the promise of fast results is a placebo. Nothing more.
Self motivation has become a lost art. Resiliency is a dying trade. We train the body to move and the mind to be quiet, but where is it getting us? A pretty big void exists if weren’t not learning how to use those modalities to put a fire under ourselves or to turn the damn page.
To be clear, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being drawn to something that leaves you feeling inspired. I do, however, find great fault in tactics that claim to represent the power required to propel your life to a fitter, healthier, wealthier, more successful stage.
The difference lies between employing a strategy versus using a crutch. Do you have a kickass set of tools in your toolbox? Or, rather, are others profiting from things you could be providing for yourself?
Because the real resources will empower you to find the strength you need within you.
Where it is running rampant, ready to be bottled, so you can tap into it whenever you need.
Food for Thought:
What products/systems/services/trackers/professionals do you rely on to sustain you? Write them all down and throughout the week, ask yourself how they really serve you. Which ones are truly indispensable? Are any replaceable? If it crosses your mind that you might be able to go without something, try it. See how it feels to not have to rely on something in order to thrive or define your progress (or lack thereof).
Additionally – without judging – pay attention to the habits of those around you. Watch how people swear about how products have “changed their lives.” Often it’s not the product itself that is transformational but the perspective that the experience with it provided. Being in tune to other people’s dependencies will only make you more aware of the ones in your own life.