“You don’t understand.” Those words are often the prelude to some sort of explanation, typically one about why or how come something cannot be done. It’s our way of telling others that our circumstances are unique, as we justify our actions or lack thereof.
We hear it regularly in the fitness world. People come to us seeking help firmly believing that their life presents challenges that warrant exceptions. Mothers tell me, a childless woman, that I cannot possibly understand what it’s like to fit exercise into a day full of carpools and packing lunches. Corporate execs boast about 14 hour days, proudly putting their perceived productivity in front of their health.
But here’s the deal. You’re right. I cannot understand what your life is like nor can you perceive the countless challenges I – nor anyone else – face. Our lives are unique in the fact that we all have our own set of circumstances, our own assortment of cards that have been dealt. But they’re ours, and they’re ours for the playing, so we might as well use them to win a few rounds.
Because Mrs. Mom has quite a few years before she’s no longer the sole caregiver for her children. So, in my opinion, she better figure out a way to work with her parameters ASAP as opposed to using them as a shield against tangible growth. And that professional in the corner office better learn to like waking up early, because it very well may be the only time they’re going to get a workout in. These aren’t choices. They’re non-negotiables. Either you do, or you don’t.
The bottom line is that the most successful individuals – be it in the personal, professional or physical realm – do not view their circumstances as crosses to bear; quite the contrary they view them as hurdles to conquer. How much could we accomplish if we stopped looking at problems and instead focused on creating solutions? There’s always going to be a block in the road. It’s time to get over it. In more ways than one.